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Fear of Rejection or of Being Hurt


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Author: Maureen Shaw | Total views: 62 | Word Count: 681 | Category: Relationships | Date: Jul 23rd 2007

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Do you shy away from relationships because youre afraid of being hurt Too many people dont live their lives to the hilt and seem to be overwhelmed by the prospect of being hurt or of feeling rejected when a relationship ends.

Nothing is truer than this old saying

A life lived in fear is a life half-lived

If you are one of these people who would rather stay at home because the thought of being rejected or hurt is too much to bear, read on.

If you think about ANY relationship in the following terms, youll instantly release that fear you feel.

Everyone you meet in your life even total strangers is already intimately connected to you. The idea that we are all separate and distinct beings is nothing but an illusion. We are all parts of a larger whole, like individual cells in a body.

If you think about the universe as one big ball of energy and everything and everyone in it is interconnected, then the previous statement has real meaning. Think about it for a minute and then consider these points:

* Connectedness - You dont have to build brand new relationships because youre already connected. Imagine that youre tuning in to a connection thats already there.
* No risk - Little or no courage is required to approach strangers. Youre never actually building new connections from scratch. Youre just recognizing whats already there.
* Equality - You can feel just as close to total strangers as you do to your friends or family.
* Importance - All relationships are significant; none are irrelevant. Even strangers you pass on the street could become important to you.
* Endings - Letting go of harmful relationships is easier because youre still connected to everyone else. As you release old relationships or you are released from a relationship that no longer serves you, youll attract new ones that are much more compatible with you.

When you have a certain mindset about relationships, you begin to attract the right people at the right times. If you ask around amongst your friends, youre sure to find several who felt they were destined to be together from early on in their relationships.

I think the reason this mindset is so effective in creating new relationships is that when you assume a pre-existing connection with another person, he or she will tend to respond in kind. Usually the best way to break the ice with someone is to assume there never was any ice to begin with.

Applying the mindset

When you assume the mindset that were all inherently connected, these are some of the actions and results that will come naturally to you:
Easy rapport - Youll connect with strangers almost as easily as you connect with your closest friends, sometimes more easily. The difference between strangers and friends is intellectual familiarity, but you can tap into an intuitive familiarity even with someone youve never met.

* Fairness - Youll begin to feel a kinship with everyone, regardless of familiarity.
* Attraction - Because youre always open to connecting with people, youll begin attracting new relationships fairly easily. Compatible people will be drawn to you.
* Chance encounters - Youll start meeting people you feel youre meant to meet.
* Deeper relationships - Youll enjoy deeper, less superficial relationships.
* Energy - Youll attract relationships that energize and excite you rather than drain you.

Fearless relationships

The real key in a successful relationship is removing fear from the equation. When you can relate to people without fear, which is a natural consequence of the belief that were all connected, then it becomes much easier to form deep connections with another human being.

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Maureen is the author of the book how to win the dating game, Do you know how to get lucky online She does. She didn't always know. It took her several years of watching how other people got lucky and now you can learn it for yourself. You can also visit her blog Feeling FlirtyGet a Date!, autumnal confessions and Sexy Advice by Maureen. You can also visit the site http://www.howtowinthedatinggame.com for her book. And http://www.feelingflirty.com




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